Since "my" parenting style was brought into this... I'll have to say it never occurred to me to alarm lock the kids into the house. Random drug tests weren't ever on my list either. :idk:

What would I do? I would let it go. Lock the doors and windows like you normally would to keep the ugly OUT. It's a question of WHY she's sneaking out. What are her plans, exactly? When she does sneak out - just do what my mother did and take a nap in the middle of her bed waiting for her to return.

There is something to be said for the "blame" to be passed on to the parents when demands are set on a child. Peer pressure can either be lifted or they will just learn another way to get around it. Personally, I'm more for raising children that make a better choice rather than try and get around the rules.

Could always lock her back out when she sneaks out. Looks like she's trying to have her cake and eat it too.... [have her own schedule with a nice place to sleep]. If she can't get back into her nice warm and safe world, tough love might make her want to not leave it unexpectedly.

she figured out the alarm - I would give her 24 hours to figure out how to print out the report (most alarms do that as a basic function - but they could call the mfr. for sure)

If parents distrust their kids so much that they drug test them, there are other issues to be resolved.

i like those ideas. i'll pass them along LOL

i'm definitely keeping you on speed dial when we need creative ideas LOL

Like you & your friends didn't at that age.

And even if you got into trouble from it, you LEARNED from it....

I hope they're doing it because she recently fucked up and this is the punishment......If on the other hand they've ALWAYS been doing it, that's extremely weak parenting skillz IMO.

since when do you trust a teenager? omg. i look back and KNOW the reason why i was knocked up at 17 was BECAUSE my parents trusted me. LOL stupid move on their part.

Damn, I guess "good" is up for interpretation. :skep:

Personally, I'd be pretty (privately) proud of my kid if they figured out how to do this little trick. But then again, I was happy when just locking doors wasn't enough to keep our toddler corralled where we wanted him. Didn't take him long to figure out how that lock worked. :)

I have an 11 1/2 year old because of it. Hard lesson to learn, and I'm STILL not "caught up" from that stupidity--meaning, should be done w/ school, should be further in my career, but not because I was busy playing teen mommy.

Wouldn't it be better to avoid that situation if you could w/ a little ole house alarm?

If I was the daughter, I would change the code and lock my parents in.:wtfru:

To me, if she really wants to have sex, how is an alarm going to stop it? She'll just do it in the bleachers, or right after school at her b/f house or his car.

How good of a job did your parents do talking to you about the consequences of pregnancy, and how sex shouldn't be rushed, and how if you do have it you need to use protection?

Making things a "mystery" makes kids want it even more, IMO