just kinda sux - Page 2

Particle Man · 12-09-2009, 04:28 PM

Not to sound harsh, but shut up about thinking you're whining. That's total BS dude and you're experienced enough as a rider to know that you should choose your riding partners carefully and that good riding partners don't come along every day. My advice (such as it is) is: Don't force it. Right now you're close enough to what happened to still be wanting the past. Your skills are always changing and at some point you'll discover someone else who rides at your pace and at your skill level.

I wish I could say that stuff like this fades over time - it doesn't fade but it changes...

MILK · 12-09-2009, 05:00 PM

Good friends are hard to find. Having one that was also a riding buddy is something a lot of people never find at all. I agree with others to take your time, you should find someone eventually. I would ride with you but I stopped riding myself.

dReWpY · 12-09-2009, 05:27 PM

i know what you mean, i have "lost" two of my best riding buddies, one moved to FL, the other just moved on, I found myself riding less because i didnt have as much fun by myself, then i got the buell, rode the piss out of it for a month then pretty much parked it for the winter.

want my suggestions, go ride and see if you bump elbows with anyone that has the same riding style, i know thats how i ran into ftbstrd

MissHell · 12-10-2009, 02:04 PM

I have nothing to add, that hasn't already been said.

It doesn't compare, but the group I rode with dis-banded over time and I really miss riding with them. I have tried other groups, but they are too young and reckless for me. Sometimes I get a little down about it, I miss the good ol' days.

Good riding partners are hard to come by.

Kerry_129 · 12-11-2009, 05:27 PM

I know what you mean - good riding partners, like good friends are rare and to be treasured. But they do exist & might not be as hard to find as it may seen right now.
I consider myself very fortunate to have several great people in my life who are both. Up until the past few years I have taken that somewhat for granted, but it has slowly dawned on me that those people will likely be lifelong friends and are a huge part of what makes my life great (including Kathy of course, the best person & influence in my life).

I'm so sorry you lost Brian like that & though I can relate, I can still only imagine how it feels to deal with the memory of that day. Life goes on though, and there are more 'kindred spirits' out there to ride with & even more importantly be true friends who 'get it'. Kathy & I mentioned Doug in your thread discussing your negative feelings towards riding. A friend/riding buddy of ours died in his arms in August of '08, and he still deals with the after-effects. Much like you, he questioned continuing to ride, but couldn't give up something which is a part of our very being. He remains a very fast yet conservative & considerate rider, and more importantly he's an all around great person (his wife Angela also, who often rides with him). They live east of Charlotte & often ride in the Uwharrie Forest area (some surprisingly good twisties around there). It would be very convenient for you to meet up and ride together, and I feel very confident in telling you that Doug could restore your faith in being able to find good solid riding partners who are trustworthy, yet fun & challenging. Not squidly, not slow, not stupid - just right. Take me up on it & let me put you guys in touch for a ride some day - I dare ya.

And hang in there, man - I still think about my buddy Trent on a regular basis, but it's easier now to look at pictures & remember him with a smile instead of feeling tears well up.

LeeNetworX · 12-10-2009, 10:53 AM

It's a shame we don't live closer; based on some of our conversations, it seems we'd get along pretty well. Hope things get easier as time passes.

fasternyou929 · 12-10-2009, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by CasterTroy

Brian validated my desire to ride, and to ride the way I LIKED to ride and let me know that; since there was another JUST LIKE me, that I wasn't so very odd (not a sports nut, or golf freak)

Damn....it's only been 3 months but it feels like it's been 5 years

Thanks for the comments everyone

It takes time to find someone you gel with so well, especially during the "off-season" for riding. I've had to repeat the process a few times due to moving for my friends moving away and it always takes time to find another niche.

It will happen though, and as you start to ride with them you'll begin pushing one another's skill level and you'll have "that guy" to ride with again.

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Originally Posted by LeeNetworX

It's a shame we don't live closer; based on some of our conversations, it seems we'd get along pretty well. Hope things get easier as time passes.

I was thinking the exact same thing. This spring we should all head out for a ride. If I'm not working by the ~May timeframe, I was planning to take a month off and just ride aimlessly. Maybe I should stick around the NC/GA area for a few days of it.

LeeNetworX · 12-10-2009, 11:08 AM

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Originally Posted by fasternyou929

I was thinking the exact same thing. This spring we should all head out for a ride. If I'm not working by the ~May timeframe, I was planning to take a month off and just ride aimlessly. Maybe I should stick around the NC/GA area for a few days of it.

CasterTroy · 12-10-2009, 11:13 AM

I've got vacation and a cast iron ass!

karl_1052 · 12-10-2009, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by LeeNetworX

It's a shame we don't live closer; based on some of our conversations, it seems we'd get along pretty well. Hope things get easier as time passes.

This.

Although, I think you would be much faster than me.

12-09-2009, 04:28 PM	#1
Particle Man Custom User Title Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Central NY Moto: 2003 SV650S Posts: 14,959	Not to sound harsh, but shut up about thinking you're whining. That's total BS dude and you're experienced enough as a rider to know that you should choose your riding partners carefully and that good riding partners don't come along every day. My advice (such as it is) is: Don't force it. Right now you're close enough to what happened to still be wanting the past. Your skills are always changing and at some point you'll discover someone else who rides at your pace and at your skill level. I wish I could say that stuff like this fades over time - it doesn't fade but it changes... __________________ I'm not "fat." I'm "Enlarged to show texture." Handle every stressful situation like a DOG: If you can't eat it or hump it, pi$$ on it & walk away.

12-10-2009, 11:13 AM	#9
CasterTroy ................ Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: NC Posts: 3,028	I've got vacation and a cast iron ass! __________________ “Being tolerant does not mean that I share another one’s belief. But it does mean that I acknowledge another one’s right to believe, and obey, his own conscience.” Viktor Frankl

12-09-2009, 05:00 PM	#2
MILK The cows want you dead. Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 2,087	Good friends are hard to find. Having one that was also a riding buddy is something a lot of people never find at all. I agree with others to take your time, you should find someone eventually. I would ride with you but I stopped riding myself.

12-10-2009, 02:04 PM	#4
MissHell Followed the crowd over. Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Hawaii Moto: '07 Yahama R6 Posts: 911	I have nothing to add, that hasn't already been said. It doesn't compare, but the group I rode with dis-banded over time and I really miss riding with them. I have tried other groups, but they are too young and reckless for me. Sometimes I get a little down about it, I miss the good ol' days. Good riding partners are hard to come by.

12-11-2009, 05:27 PM	#5
Kerry_129 Semi-reformed Squid Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 531	I know what you mean - good riding partners, like good friends are rare and to be treasured. But they do exist & might not be as hard to find as it may seen right now. I consider myself very fortunate to have several great people in my life who are both. Up until the past few years I have taken that somewhat for granted, but it has slowly dawned on me that those people will likely be lifelong friends and are a huge part of what makes my life great (including Kathy of course, the best person & influence in my life). I'm so sorry you lost Brian like that & though I can relate, I can still only imagine how it feels to deal with the memory of that day. Life goes on though, and there are more 'kindred spirits' out there to ride with & even more importantly be true friends who 'get it'. Kathy & I mentioned Doug in your thread discussing your negative feelings towards riding. A friend/riding buddy of ours died in his arms in August of '08, and he still deals with the after-effects. Much like you, he questioned continuing to ride, but couldn't give up something which is a part of our very being. He remains a very fast yet conservative & considerate rider, and more importantly he's an all around great person (his wife Angela also, who often rides with him). They live east of Charlotte & often ride in the Uwharrie Forest area (some surprisingly good twisties around there). It would be very convenient for you to meet up and ride together, and I feel very confident in telling you that Doug could restore your faith in being able to find good solid riding partners who are trustworthy, yet fun & challenging. Not squidly, not slow, not stupid - just right. Take me up on it & let me put you guys in touch for a ride some day - I dare ya. And hang in there, man - I still think about my buddy Trent on a regular basis, but it's easier now to look at pictures & remember him with a smile instead of feeling tears well up.

12-10-2009, 10:53 AM	#6
LeeNetworX SFL Expatriate #1 Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: ATL Burbs Moto: '09 Triumph Speed Triple Posts: 4,712	It's a shame we don't live closer; based on some of our conversations, it seems we'd get along pretty well. Hope things get easier as time passes.