Cheating - Page 5

neebelung · 11-07-2009, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by lauralynne

it's fine to say "oh HELL no - he/she's GONE!" but the reality might be different.

My instinct is to say "hell no" but realistically? I have no idea what I would do. And I hope to never find out.

I agree 100%.

t-homo · 11-07-2009, 09:59 PM

It depends on the relationship and how serious is it. Most of the time, who gives a shit, but if I were engaged or married, it may be a little different.

Amorok · 11-08-2009, 12:28 AM

When I was younger I'd have said he'll no, but at this point in my life I just can't be that black and white. It would be hard to stay with Ulu if she cheated but I'm not willing to say it would be over right away, I have Poot to think about. I can say though that shed probably leave in a few months just because I'd make her miserable. Not so good at the forgiving. Bu depending on circumstances I might be willing to try and work it out.

Rangerscott · 11-08-2009, 01:10 AM

There's no excuse for cheating. If you're unhappy, then end the relationship.

I hate the BS about, "Well I just had to see if..........."

There is no excuse.

Fleck750 · 11-08-2009, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Rangerscott

There's no excuse for cheating. If you're unhappy, then end the relationship.

I hate the BS about, "Well I just had to see if..........."

There is no excuse.

That was the condition in my case.

Told him if he's that unhappy, then he needs to tell me, even if we can't fix what's wrong. Just don't go out and screw someone, then come home to me acting like nothings wrong. Man up, tell what's wrong, and if it's unfixable, somebody should leave.

And yes, the trust is gone.

JoshuaTree · 11-08-2009, 09:30 AM

I've been cheated on. Finding out on a Valentine's Day truly sucked. Would I ever trust her in a relationship - NO, never again (and yes, she's asked several times to come back, through two other long-term relationships she's had). Do I pity her for her choices and the resulting soul-less, joy-less life she leads, perhaps. To paraphrase Benjamin Franklin "... those that would trade essential love and happiness for temporary lifestyle and living status gains deserve neither..."

YMMV...

the chi · 11-08-2009, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by JoshuaTree

I've been cheated on. Finding out on a Valentine's Day truly sucked. Would I ever trust her in a relationship - NO, never again (and yes, she's asked several times to come back, through two other long-term relationships she's had). Do I pity her for her choices and the resulting soul-less, joy-less life she leads, perhaps. To paraphrase Benjamin Franklin "... those that would trade essential love and happiness for temporary lifestyle and living status gains deserve neither..."

YMMV...

Thats a great quote, really puts it in perspective.

cbrchick · 11-08-2009, 08:10 PM

Not saying any of y'all "no cheater for me" think this....

But it's interesting how so many people are against cheating and staying with someone that cheats/ed, but won't drop thier friends that cheat on their SO's.

Anyway... back to the discussion.

I'd say no to cheating SO - trust would be very hard to regain.

Mr Lefty · 11-08-2009, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by cbrchick

Not saying any of y'all "no cheater for me" think this....

But it's interesting how so many people are against cheating and staying with someone that cheats/ed, but won't drop thier friends that cheat on their SO's.

Anyway... back to the discussion.

I'd say no to cheating SO - trust would be very hard to regain.

part of the issue... is that the trust between me and that person hasn't been broken.

now I've had only one friend cheat on his girlfriend... I stayed out of it... if she'd have asked me I'd have been honest with her... and I told him that... but our friendship wasn't broken...

same as I can be friends with someone who cheats... just can't be in a relationship.

CrazyKell · 11-08-2009, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by cbrchick

But it's interesting how so many people are against cheating and staying with someone that cheats/ed, but won't drop thier friends that cheat on their SO's.

I always find that really interesting too. And in fact, I dropped a "friend" that did some really questionable stuff to his girlfriend. Not my idea of a person I want in my life.

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11-08-2009, 09:30 AM	#6
JoshuaTree DILLIGAF? Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Austin, Texas, USA, Earth, Sol, Western Spiral Arm, Milky Way Moto: 1993 K75SA Posts: 483	I've been cheated on. Finding out on a Valentine's Day truly sucked. Would I ever trust her in a relationship - NO, never again (and yes, she's asked several times to come back, through two other long-term relationships she's had). Do I pity her for her choices and the resulting soul-less, joy-less life she leads, perhaps. To paraphrase Benjamin Franklin "... those that would trade essential love and happiness for temporary lifestyle and living status gains deserve neither..." YMMV... __________________ "Quis custodiet ipsos custodes?" "Learn to do the counter-intuitive things that may one day save your ass..." "... Love Much, Laugh Often..." - Amanda Kay Corso (January 18, 1980 - April 15, 2008)

11-07-2009, 09:59 PM	#2
t-homo WSB Champion Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Springfield, MO Posts: 7,146	It depends on the relationship and how serious is it. Most of the time, who gives a shit, but if I were engaged or married, it may be a little different.

11-08-2009, 12:28 AM	#3
Amorok Issukangitok Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Biloxi, MS Moto: '06 Suzuki Boulevard C50T Posts: 2,225	When I was younger I'd have said he'll no, but at this point in my life I just can't be that black and white. It would be hard to stay with Ulu if she cheated but I'm not willing to say it would be over right away, I have Poot to think about. I can say though that shed probably leave in a few months just because I'd make her miserable. Not so good at the forgiving. Bu depending on circumstances I might be willing to try and work it out.

11-08-2009, 01:10 AM	#4
Rangerscott Viff6N Mutated Warrior Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Texas Moto: '01 Honda VFR 800 & '09 ER-6N Posts: 8,704	There's no excuse for cheating. If you're unhappy, then end the relationship. I hate the BS about, "Well I just had to see if..........." There is no excuse.

11-08-2009, 08:10 PM	#8
cbrchick Canyon Carver Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada Moto: Honda CBR 600, Yamaha Zuma 50, Suzuki SV1000 Posts: 395	Not saying any of y'all "no cheater for me" think this.... But it's interesting how so many people are against cheating and staying with someone that cheats/ed, but won't drop thier friends that cheat on their SO's. Anyway... back to the discussion. I'd say no to cheating SO - trust would be very hard to regain.