More woman bias

[karl_1052]

Originally Posted by CasterTroy

Life is pretty dull when you play it safe. If you don't take a chance you never reap the reward.

I see so MANY of you post on here about your huge TV's or new gadgets and how everyone should jump on board and ride the "new fad" train.

We all drool over bikes and goodies and dream about what we'd do if we HAD money....yet I see JUST as many posts about empty hearts and how your personal lives suck. About how you never can get laid (married), or your spouse or girlfriend isn't fulfilling you....granted...those that post that kind of stuff really aren’t self-aware enough to know that’s what they are posting, but basically it boils down to they aren't being fulfilled.

Some of you (men) are so very bitter and or afraid of putting your heart out there that you can’t FIND a significant other, so you focus on yourself 100% (BTW…that’s not an effective way of FINDING anyone either….just so you know) and you sit among your toys and “things” and you’re miserable.

Trust me when I say that that misery comes thru in posts.

Yes my first marriage failed. And yes I DID learn a great deal from it. While I applied SOME of the principle of “pleasing your spouse” to my first marriage, I didn’t make it my top priority. In the end, she wanted something other than what I could offer her….something a LOT of people revert to when they’re not willing to take a chance and put their heart out there and risk having someone damage it……THINGS…….she wanted a house in a gated community, as well as a lake home in the neighborhood all the VP’s of her company lived in. And since I was just a mere engineer with no aspirations of being a vice president of ANYTHING…..she chose a VP at her company who HAD all that. She left to pursue him and after 5 years of stringing her along, dumping her, running back to her, dumping her……..etc….his wife found out about their affair and he’s now out with the shirt on his back sleeping on my ex’s couch

That’s basically what happened. I’m not bitter, nor do I resent her. She just wasn’t willing to take the chance on letting anyone in, for fear of getting hurt. Her whole life was full of hurt and full of abandonment so I can’t say I blame her. However I WAS willing to take that chance, and I DID get hurt. I DID fail. But I put on my big girl panties, I quit crying and I tried again.

If you fail at something once are you forever a failure? If your favorite team loses a game are they labeled losers forever? Even if you try and fail, it doesn't mean that you didn't learn something, it means you had the BALLS to try in the first place. And if that try failed….you’ve got even bigger balls to TRY again. Anyone who writes off someone because they had a failure, and feels they have nothing to ever offer up, is just a fucking moron, especially if they’ve not even TRIED themselves to begin with.

Now, I’m a few years older, and knew what I was looking for. And at the TOP of the list was finding someone that knew who they were, and knew what they wanted….and were willing to take a huge risk to get it.

I found that.

And granted….YES, I may very well get hurt one day..I may get taken advantage of….but DAMN whatta ride I’m on right now! I could die today and I’d have lived a totally fulfilled complete life. And I don’t need a DAMN thing but my wife and kids.

Can you can sit there and say that?.

Is that a long winded way of saying 101lifts is really gay?


Good post!

[azoomm]

Well said Troy!! Bravo!

I'm sorry, but I don't understand all the angst toward a color. I wish women would get over it - I mean, really get over it and stop tearing other women down over the fact that they like what they like.

[CrazyKell]

Originally Posted by azoomm

Well said Troy!! Bravo!

I'm sorry, but I don't understand all the angst toward a color. I wish women would get over it - I mean, really get over it and stop tearing other women down over the fact that they like what they like.

This.

[unknownroad]

Originally Posted by pauldun170

Dude...
Fap is what boys do.
Flap is what girls do when they get real aggressive and get both hands involved.

Originally Posted by CasterTroy

Even if you try and fail, it doesn't mean that you didn't learn something, it means you had the BALLS to try in the first place. And if that try failed….you’ve got even bigger balls to TRY again.

"Trying is the first step towards failure" - H J Simpson

[the chi]

Originally Posted by 101lifts2

Yeah good point.

Not blaming him or her cause it is non of my buisness, but the whole "try to make your spouse as happy as possible" thing I'm not buying...It's a recipe to get taken advantage of or used.

Are you flipping serious? How old are you, 12?

Im totally with Troy on this one. Being in a good and fulfilling relationship is not worrying about being taken advantage of or used, shit, if thats what you worry about, you are in the wrong relationship. You guys REALLY need to meet different women.

I failed the first time around too, we both did. I got hurt and burned more than just emotionally, but Im glad I reached out and found someone instead of sitting back, bitching and moaning about how those of us that are "happy" are delusional. Get a grip people. Happiness in a relationship isnt based on just what makes you happy, and if you think it is, you are suffering from some serious selfishness and immaturity. If/when your relationship fails, that will be one of the reasons.

[tommymac]

Originally Posted by The Chi

Are you flipping serious? How old are you, 12?

Im totally with Troy on this one. Being in a good and fulfilling relationship is not worrying about being taken advantage of or used, shit, if thats what you worry about, you are in the wrong relationship. You guys REALLY need to meet different women.

I failed the first time around too, we both did. I got hurt and burned more than just emotionally, but Im glad I reached out and found someone instead of sitting back, bitching and moaning about how those of us that are "happy" are delusional. Get a grip people. Happiness in a relationship isnt based on just what makes you happy, and if you think it is, you are suffering from some serious selfishness and immaturity. If/when your relationship fails, that will be one of the reasons.

Life is about taking risks and that seems to be better said by you and troy.

I even look at the pros and cons in my relationship, she doesnt make much money and has issues with being on time which drives me nuts, and at times isnt all that motivated.

But we have fun together and can do stuff together as well as on our own. So I get to pursue anr participate in my intrests and not have to make many sacrafices.

Sure theres always the what ifs but I dont realy dwell on that.

[derf]

Originally Posted by The Chi

Are you flipping serious? How old are you, 12?

Im totally with Troy on this one. Being in a good and fulfilling relationship is not worrying about being taken advantage of or used, shit, if thats what you worry about, you are in the wrong relationship. You guys REALLY need to meet different women.

I failed the first time around too, we both did. I got hurt and burned more than just emotionally, but Im glad I reached out and found someone instead of sitting back, bitching and moaning about how those of us that are "happy" are delusional. Get a grip people. Happiness in a relationship isnt based on just what makes you happy, and if you think it is, you are suffering from some serious selfishness and immaturity. If/when your relationship fails, that will be one of the reasons.

Aren't you glad you finally found me?

[HurricaneHeather]

Originally Posted by azoomm

Well said Troy!! Bravo!

I'm sorry, but I don't understand all the angst toward a color. I wish women would get over it - I mean, really get over it and stop tearing other women down over the fact that they like what they like.

You're just an attention whore...admit it.

My new favorite sarcastic thing to say: If you're happy, then you're doing it wrong. My dad and I were saying that all day on Christmas.

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by Fleck750

You missed the point. I said WOMEN IN THEIR 40's!!!!!

I didn't say girls. Your SO is a girl. Don't tell me she's a freaking woman, either.

My gear is yellow, red, green and sometimes blue. Black makes you invisible and cagers run over you.

The spikes and maille show my love of the Middle ages, and craftsmanship.

And why do they these threads always revolve around you or the child you date? I said the word pink and you go off the deep end. Stop being so defensive.

Why make a blatant statement that actually covers a few "girls" on this forum besides my gf and not expect an answer. Seriously, what difference does it make to you what color gear other women wear.

Hey you're the one who made the statement about "grown ass women"... I didn't know that girls didn't become women until they are old like you! Hahahaha!

Btw why don't you go on up to the base and explain to all these "girls" that have just come home from Iraq how they aren't adults in your eyes?

FWIW I'm not defensive, I just won't let an obvious oportunity to argue slide by....

[G-Rex]

Originally Posted by TIGGER

FWIW I'm not defensive, I just won't let an obvious oportunity to argue slide by....

If the whole board would understand this one statement, life would be *so* much easier.