Sorry MIA... family stuff

Gas Man · 02-01-2009, 08:35 AM

Last weekend I got a call from Mom, in Florida (snow birds), that she had taken dad to the ER. He couldn't poo or pee, had bad back pain, and trouble walking a bit.

Well a few CTs later...

He has tumors on both lungs, kidney, colon, and spine. You can figure out which ones were doing what.

By Monday he could no longer feel anything from the waist down and has paralysis due to the spine tumor pinching his nerves. This has seemed to be a permenant/semi permenant thing. That my father will never walk again.

A biopsy of the lump near his left armpit that runs clear into his lung has revealed that he has terminal stage 4 lung & spine cancer.

Beyond his back pain, this was a well healthed to be 59 in march retired man. Now he's in for the fight of his and for his life.

The distance between us is hard on the family. Couple that with working 12hr days, dealing with informing family, old co-workers, friends, ect... and my days have been exhausting to say the least. I finally started an email update to help save me some time.

The support from family and friends has been wonderfull. I have passed around his direct room number and he really enjoys the phone calls. He even got to expierence some "biker family" when my good bud Bob (a marine stationed in pensocola) called him and asked how the chow and nurses were. My mother and father were BEYOND touched.

I'm sure I need not explain to you all that the emotions have been a roller coaster thru this week. I try to find the time to do other things to keep myself pre-occupied but so far work has done a pretty good job at that especially with the snow.

Now, a week later... he's had 4 chemo treatments and about 6 radiation treatments. They still haven't got his "exit" straightened out, but don't want to operate cause its not good for his treatment. He's in good spirits and mom sent me a picture of him displaying his "double guns" (arm flexing).

I can try to keep everybody in the loop as I know more. This weekend due to the super bowl pretty much blacked out air fair going down there with prices on tickets tripple normal cost. So my brother is going down Monday. I will go down after he returns. Doc says not to send too many and spread out our time. That dad isn't going anywhere right now...

In advance, thank you all for your support and prayers. The family needs em and so very much so my dad does.

Please have a better day than I have been having and if you're a smoker. Please if not for yourself, for your kids and loved ones. Please put it down. My dad's smoking is what got us to this point.

MikeSP1 · 02-01-2009, 08:42 AM

Holy crap dude. I'm sorry to hear it, hope he can pull out of it.

Particle Man · 02-01-2009, 09:29 AM

I'm so sorry to hear that man.

LittleTaz · 02-01-2009, 10:08 AM

My thoughts are with you and your family. I'm so sorry to hear this

ericr · 02-01-2009, 10:19 AM

Damn sorry to hear that man! Will keep your family in my prayers.

PiZdETS · 02-01-2009, 10:22 AM

Very sorry to hear that GM. I'm nearing the 1 month point without cigarettes.

rogue · 02-01-2009, 10:38 AM

I'm so sorry, Gas Man. I've been through it and know what you're going through. Many positive thoughts and vibes being sent to you and your family.

Flexin · 02-01-2009, 10:44 AM

Sorry to hear about your father. Cancer seems to be way to common around here. Way to many people dealing with it. Tell him and your family to keep their head up.

James

Ducati Diva · 02-01-2009, 11:35 AM

So so sorry to hear that Gas!!! I've been where you are and understand the emotional and physical drain. If JEEPS and I can do anything at all let us know! We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

azoomm · 02-01-2009, 11:43 AM

Wow. So sorry to hear about your father. Y'all are in my thoughts. I've been through it before, cherish all the time you have together.

02-01-2009, 08:35 AM	#1
Gas Man Trip's Assistant Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Imported from Detroit Moto: 2009 HD Street Classic Posts: 12,149	Sorry MIA... family stuff Last weekend I got a call from Mom, in Florida (snow birds), that she had taken dad to the ER. He couldn't poo or pee, had bad back pain, and trouble walking a bit. Well a few CTs later... He has tumors on both lungs, kidney, colon, and spine. You can figure out which ones were doing what. By Monday he could no longer feel anything from the waist down and has paralysis due to the spine tumor pinching his nerves. This has seemed to be a permenant/semi permenant thing. That my father will never walk again. A biopsy of the lump near his left armpit that runs clear into his lung has revealed that he has terminal stage 4 lung & spine cancer. Beyond his back pain, this was a well healthed to be 59 in march retired man. Now he's in for the fight of his and for his life. The distance between us is hard on the family. Couple that with working 12hr days, dealing with informing family, old co-workers, friends, ect... and my days have been exhausting to say the least. I finally started an email update to help save me some time. The support from family and friends has been wonderfull. I have passed around his direct room number and he really enjoys the phone calls. He even got to expierence some "biker family" when my good bud Bob (a marine stationed in pensocola) called him and asked how the chow and nurses were. My mother and father were BEYOND touched. I'm sure I need not explain to you all that the emotions have been a roller coaster thru this week. I try to find the time to do other things to keep myself pre-occupied but so far work has done a pretty good job at that especially with the snow. Now, a week later... he's had 4 chemo treatments and about 6 radiation treatments. They still haven't got his "exit" straightened out, but don't want to operate cause its not good for his treatment. He's in good spirits and mom sent me a picture of him displaying his "double guns" (arm flexing). I can try to keep everybody in the loop as I know more. This weekend due to the super bowl pretty much blacked out air fair going down there with prices on tickets tripple normal cost. So my brother is going down Monday. I will go down after he returns. Doc says not to send too many and spread out our time. That dad isn't going anywhere right now... In advance, thank you all for your support and prayers. The family needs em and so very much so my dad does. Please have a better day than I have been having and if you're a smoker. Please if not for yourself, for your kids and loved ones. Please put it down. My dad's smoking is what got us to this point. __________________ -Chris "Why pay somebody else to fuck up your bike?" Run Amsoil Product

02-01-2009, 08:42 AM	#2
MikeSP1 Perpetual trouble Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: at the base of the Alps Moto: VTX 1300C, RC51, CBR600RR, CBR929RR Posts: 715	Holy crap dude. I'm sorry to hear it, hope he can pull out of it. __________________ "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in one pretty and well preserved piece, but to skid across the line broadside, thoroughly used up, worn out, leaking oil, shouting GERONIMO!"

02-01-2009, 09:29 AM	#3
Particle Man Custom User Title Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Central NY Moto: 2003 SV650S Posts: 14,959	I'm so sorry to hear that man. __________________ I'm not "fat." I'm "Enlarged to show texture." Handle every stressful situation like a DOG: If you can't eat it or hump it, pi$$ on it & walk away.

02-01-2009, 10:08 AM	#4
LittleTaz WERA Yellow Plate Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Greenbrier, TN Moto: '00 Ninja 250 Posts: 748	My thoughts are with you and your family. I'm so sorry to hear this __________________ Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most

02-01-2009, 10:22 AM	#6
PiZdETS ⎷⎛⎝ ⎝⏠⏝⏠⎠ ⎷⎛⎝ Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: ⎷⎛⎝ ⎝⏠⏝⏠⎠ ⎷⎛⎝ Moto: ⎷⎛⎝ ⎝⏠⏝⏠⎠ ⎷⎛⎝ Posts: 990	Very sorry to hear that GM. I'm nearing the 1 month point without cigarettes. __________________

02-01-2009, 10:44 AM	#8
Flexin AMA Supersport Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Halifax, Nova Scotia Posts: 2,698	Sorry to hear about your father. Cancer seems to be way to common around here. Way to many people dealing with it. Tell him and your family to keep their head up. James

02-01-2009, 11:35 AM	#9
Ducati Diva just learning Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: western nc Moto: 1996 M900 Posts: 1,348	So so sorry to hear that Gas!!! I've been where you are and understand the emotional and physical drain. If JEEPS and I can do anything at all let us know! We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. __________________ Todays mighty oak is just yesterdays nut who stood it's ground!

02-01-2009, 11:43 AM	#10
azoomm moderator chick Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Hill Country TX Moto: Pasta Rockets Posts: 8,917	Wow. So sorry to hear about your father. Y'all are in my thoughts. I've been through it before, cherish all the time you have together. __________________ We have enough youth. How about a fountain of "smart"? Come Play at the Track!! http://www.elitetrackdays.com