Soldier mom refuses deployment to care for baby

[the chi]

Originally Posted by Cutty72

All she has to do is put in for a Hardship, and she won't have to go on the deployment.
We had quite a few people put in for hardships before we got deployed. We have also had a couple sent home because of hardships that have come up since we left.

Sometimes things happen in life that you have no control over that warrant a hardship. If you are able to put in a hardship every time your unit gets deployed for a 20+ year career, you probably shouldn't have joined.

:clap: Thats what Im talking about. The timing of her mother bringing the child home is just so coincidentally a week before she is supposed to leave...Im thinking she just didnt want to go.

And you'd THINK, with free health care, she'd know how to not get knocked up.

[Rider]

Tough fucking shit. Give her a dishonorable discharge and send her out on her ass. Having a baby IS a choice and she chose to violate the terms of her enlistment. See ya in the unemployment line, bitch!

[the chi]

Originally Posted by Cruzergirl

The way I read it, she had a plan for her child but that situation fell through 5 days before the deployment.

Seems to me she did everything right. What is done is done, she has a child, I'm not going to judge her for that...who hasn't made a mistake, trusted the wrong guy, not been exactly religious about birth control (hell, the pill is only 97% effective).

Cut the girl some slack.

Maybe, just maybe, the Army was, perhaps, not quite so flexible or willing to help this person out.

But hell, let's all rush to judgement...

I applaud your kind thoughts. I've spent pretty much my entire life with half my family in the military, with tons of kids, single parents and being married to military, it just doesnt happen. No commander would tell you to put your kid in foster care for a deployment.

[Cruzergirl]

Originally Posted by Rider

Tough fucking shit. Give her a dishonorable discharge and send her out on her ass. Having a baby IS a choice and she chose to violate the terms of her enlistment. See ya in the unemployment line, bitch!

Wow. Just Wow.

[Cutty72]

Originally Posted by Rider

Tough fucking shit. Give her a dishonorable discharge and send her out on her ass. Having a baby IS a choice and she chose to violate the terms of her enlistment. See ya in the unemployment line, bitch!

That is a bit extreme...

[Cruzergirl]

Originally Posted by The Chi

I applaud your kind thoughts. I've spent pretty much my entire life with half my family in the military, with tons of kids, single parents and being married to military, it just doesnt happen. No commander would tell you to put your kid in foster care for a deployment.

Thanks!

I have been in the military for over 22 years. All I'm saying is that to me it looks like she doesn't deserve what she's getting.

And I don't know about that last thing about the foster care. I've met some pretty shitty officers who couldn't give a crap less about anyone but themselves.

But yeah, most of the parents I know in the military both find a way to make it work and sometimes do not. Just depends on the family and the person. Hard for ME to make that call about someone.

[tommymac]

Originally Posted by Rider

Tough fucking shit. Give her a dishonorable discharge and send her out on her ass. Having a baby IS a choice and she chose to violate the terms of her enlistment. See ya in the unemployment line, bitch!

But then we all have ot pay for her by her going on welfare and medicaid.

Tom

[Rider]

Originally Posted by Cutty72

That is a bit extreme...

Yeah the dishonorable might be a tad extreme, but so is Dereliction of Duty, Failure to Obey a Commanding Officer and AWOL all for not showing up at her assigned duty station.

[Rider]

Originally Posted by tommymac

But then we all have ot pay for her by her going on welfare and medicaid.

Tom

We'd be paying for her NOT to serve our country if she stayed in so either way we are paying.

[the chi]

Originally Posted by Cruzergirl

Thanks!

I have been in the military for over 22 years. All I'm saying is that to me it looks like she doesn't deserve what she's getting.

And I don't know about that last thing about the foster care. I've met some pretty shitty officers who couldn't give a crap less about anyone but themselves.

But yeah, most of the parents I know in the military both find a way to make it work and sometimes do not. Just depends on the family and the person. Hard for ME to make that call about someone.

I didnt know you were in the military, explains Pcola tho!!

I hear ya about the officers, I've met a few myself that might try something like that, but theres no way they could actually get away with it.

If this girl wasnt properly informed, she should have taken steps before basically going AWOL. She knew enough to get her mom as guardian, which leads me to think she really just didnt want to go and is trying to use this as an excuse. The timing of her mom bringing the baby back 5 days before she leaves doesnt add up either, especially if the woman runs a daycare servicing 14 kids plus caretaking for others.