40 Days and 40 nights is not easy.

[Tsunami]

Originally Posted by defector

[Freud]
Tell me about your mother...
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And also about the type of women you keep finding and as mentioned before, where you have been meeting them.

[Captain Morgan]

Originally Posted by Trip

Where do you currently meet your women, Captain? Maybe a change of venue is needed. Since you are really into being on a motorcycle, have you tried finding a local moto group where you may be able to meet a woman who shares a very big similar interest.

I've met them just about everywhere. From being introduced by friends all the way to meeting at a bar. Bars are obviously the worst and I don't plan to date anyone I meet at a bar again. Right now it doesn't make a ton of difference because I'm too damn busy to date for the next several months, but I'll keep it in mind to check and see if there are any local moto groups, but this town is pretty damn small. Most women that are into motorcycles here seem to want the Harley guy, which I definitely am not.

[Adeptus_Minor]

While I respect that you're trying to sort things out for yourself, what you're describing is something that isn't going to get sorted out by simply avoiding muchachas malas and not tugging on your tallywacker.
Really, all that's doing is avoiding the effect; it's doing nothing to fix the cause.

[HokieDNA01]

So are all the women you meet willing to sleep with you the first night? Pretty easy give away (assuming they are shit faced). I'm not saying they are holding out till marriage or anything but a little restraint with intentions of seeing you again is a great sign. It also dawned on me with my current relationship...my first instincts with this guy were that I wasn't interested, he wasn't "my" type, and I wasn't head over heels the night....first month we dated. After the second month it dawned on me that he was perfect for me and I wasnt so wrapped up in WANTING him that it was a healthy relationship. It seems to only get better with time instead of all the others that started out at their best the first minute we met and fade from there. But remember, this is girl advice. So it probably doesn't matter ;o)

[Captain Morgan]

Originally Posted by Adeptus_Minor

While I respect that you're trying to sort things out for yourself, what you're describing is something that isn't going to get sorted out by simply avoiding muchachas malas and not tugging on your tallywacker.
Really, all that's doing is avoiding the effect; it's doing nothing to fix the cause.

I definitely agree with you on the fact that this isn't going to sort out the issue alone. I'm doing other things as well to sort out my issues, this is just one aspect of it. Why do I think this is even an aspect? Because I've come to the conclusion that it's possible that porn has caused me to view women more as simply sex objects. No, I'm not going to go all Rick Santorum and say that porn should be banned. I think adults should be free to choose to live their lives however they want. However, this is a decision I've made for myself. I might later decide that it was an incorrect conclusion and go back to what I was doing, but I won't know if I don't make the change.

Originally Posted by HokieDNA01

So are all the women you meet willing to sleep with you the first night? Pretty easy give away (assuming they are shit faced). I'm not saying they are holding out till marriage or anything but a little restraint with intentions of seeing you again is a great sign. It also dawned on me with my current relationship...my first instincts with this guy were that I wasn't interested, he wasn't "my" type, and I wasn't head over heels the night....first month we dated. After the second month it dawned on me that he was perfect for me and I wasnt so wrapped up in WANTING him that it was a healthy relationship. It seems to only get better with time instead of all the others that started out at their best the first minute we met and fade from there. But remember, this is girl advice. So it probably doesn't matter ;o)

The vast majority of them have been willing to sleep with me the first night. I've had a few relationships that started from one night stands and a few where it took a few dates to get into bed. I've tried dating numerous women that weren't "my type," but deep down, they've all had the same psychological base issues. After much deliberation, I've come to the conclusion that the single common denominator in all of these failed relationships is me. So, I've decided to take a complete break from all of it and work on myself. If I figure out what is wrong with me, I'd be willing to bet I'll find the right woman for me, or maybe even decide there is no right woman for me.

Yeah, this is a lot of personal BS to throw out on the internet to a bunch of people I don't really know all that well, most of whom I've never even met. I never intended for this thread to get this deep, but you guys asked, so I answered.

BTW, that comedy bit that was posted was pretty damned funny.

[Trip]

You just need to find the one woman who has the issues, you don't mind. We all have issues and things that rub each other the wrong way, you just have to find the ones with the issues you don't mind as much.

[Cutty72]

Originally Posted by Captain Morgan

blah blah blah I used to like easy women blah blah blah they're all dirty whores blah blah blah booze is the best panty remover blah blah blah just don't do it for me anymore blah blah blah, or maybe even decide there is no right woman for me.

blah blah blah blah personal shit blah blah blah

So... you're saying you're gay...

[Trip]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZuG1vyQ1mUQ

[Tsunami]

Originally Posted by Captain Morgan

The vast majority of them have been willing to sleep with me the first night. I've had a few relationships that started from one night stands and a few where it took a few dates to get into bed.

Stop feeling up all these women at the bar the first night and getting them all hot and bothered so they want to jump your bones!

[Adeptus_Minor]

Originally Posted by HokieDNA01

It also dawned on me with my current relationship...my first instincts with this guy were that I wasn't interested, he wasn't "my" type, and I wasn't head over heels the night....first month we dated. After the second month it dawned on me that he was perfect for me and I wasnt so wrapped up in WANTING him that it was a healthy relationship. It seems to only get better with time instead of all the others that started out at their best the first minute we met and fade from there. But remember, this is girl advice. So it probably doesn't matter ;o)

Actually, Kathy, that's the same sort of thing most relationship experts will tell you if you have issues with your 'picker'.
Date people who are less exciting... less intense...initially and you have a better chance of building a healthy relationship.
It's advice I'm trying to follow myself... though, admittedly, I've been practicing passive avoidance more than anything.