I know we are all perfect angels here...

[MILK]

Originally Posted by racedoll

And why is this?
It's like you guys are great being the boyfriend but husband is a completely different story. Then you wonder why we change.

Touche!!!

[pauldun170]

Originally Posted by racedoll

And why is this?
It's like you guys are great being the boyfriend but husband is a completely different story. Then you wonder why we change.

Hey don't drag me into that old gag.
Some people are too much of a rush to get married and they get caught up in the whole thing.

Some women get so caught up in the wanting to get married and all the pomp and circumstance that their perception of the their boyfriend is completely different than the reality of who the guy really is. Blinded by romance...

I've seen a few divorces where the women were complaining how the guy turned into an asshole after they got married.

No sweetheart...he was an asshole all along. You just didn't want listen.

Originally Posted by sherri_chickie

mind you a great boyfriend isn't necessarily the same as a great husband. Sometimes the traits you want in a boyfriend are not great for husband material.

True

[Smittie61984]

Originally Posted by pauldun170

Some women get so caught up in the wanting to get married and all the pomp and circumstance that their perception of the their boyfriend is completely different than the reality of who the guy really is. Blinded by romance...

I've seen a few divorces where the women were complaining how the guy turned into an asshole after they got married.

No sweetheart...he was an asshole all along. You just didn't want listen.

I agree with a lot of that there but I think a lot of husbands become complacent.

Working in homes I saw a lot of it first hand. Good looking wife and a husband who is more worried about his college football team and golfing with friends than spending time with his wife. But at the same time he probably obsessed with the same shit when he was 20 as he does now that he is 40. She's just not into it at all anymore and now he's fat too. I think the divorce problem comes from this.

Women marry men hoping they'll change
Men marry women hoping they'll never change.

[pauldun170]

Originally Posted by Smittie61984

I agree with a lot of that there but I think a lot of husbands become complacent.

Working in homes I saw a lot of it first hand. Good looking wife and a husband who is more worried about his college football team and golfing with friends than spending time with his wife. But at the same time he probably obsessed with the same shit when he was 20 as he does now that he is 40. She's just not into it at all anymore and now he's fat too. I think the divorce problem comes from this.

Women marry men hoping they'll change
Men marry women hoping they'll never change.

Also true

[wildchild]

Originally Posted by racedoll

And why is this?
It's like you guys are great being the boyfriend but husband is a completely different story. Then you wonder why we change.

I'll give you my take on this. two options
option 1: guy is a lowlife so has a set amount of cash and "energy" with which to woo his chosen. she thinks he is a great find because he's always fun and adventurous. they get hitched. he has to come down to reality and can't afford to continue his dating lifestyle. she is not happy with "real" find.

option 2: guy is fun and adventurous and can afford it. he loves life. girl thinks that is great but once they settle now she wants him to "slow down" and cuddle. let's watch tv. she thinks she can tame his life. not going to happen unless he is a little bit of option 1 and was hoping for the taming to begin soon.

i vote married. engaged they actaully think they found the right guy and just want to tease you for some free drinks.

married will try it "just this once, cause they've never done this before"

[sherri_chickie]

mind you a great boyfriend isn't necessarily the same as a great husband. Sometimes the traits you want in a boyfriend are not great for husband material.

[pauldun170]

Sometimes what it comes down to is that people just change as they grow older.
Hopefully a couple can change together gracefully.

[LeeNetworX]

Originally Posted by pauldun170

Sometimes what it comes down to is that people just change as they grow older.
Hopefully a couple can change together gracefully.

Quoted for truth.

[HurricaneHeather]

Originally Posted by pauldun170

Sometimes what it comes down to is that people just change as they grow older.
Hopefully a couple can change together gracefully.

Bingo.

[Rangerscott]

I find the answers amusing since a know a lot of you would say, "Fucking cheater" if this happened to you. The person with the married person is just a guilty.