Am I wrong for wanting to sign my daughter's report card?

[Apoc]

I think your both retarded. Her because she's female. You because your trying to reason with a woman (inherently retarded), instead of telling her who the fucking man is, and how shits gonna run with your daughter.

I was drinking with a friend not long ago, while he complained about his divorce. I was getting fed up, because frankly, I dont give a shit about his problems, i've generally got my own to deal with. Anyway, he was like 'If she wasnt such a bitch, I might still be married'... So, I said 'Ya, you and ten million other men, fuckhead, now stop crying, its making me fucking uncomfortable'. He didnt like that, but fuck him. We all knew she was a bitch before they were married, so there was no reason for him not to see it. If love is blind, people shouldnt fall in love. And instead of having more kids, this time with the woman you cheated on your baby mama with, you should have maybe opened your fucking eyes, grow the fuck up, and realize what life as a divorced dad is gonna be like before you make more fucking dumb decisions. I explained this to him in detail, even harsher then i've typed.

Sorry for the rant.. Divorced people are starting to make my fucking stomach turn. And the more of my friends that get married, the more divorced friends I eventually have.

[101lifts2]

Originally Posted by Apoc

I think your both retarded. Her because she's female. You because your trying to reason with a woman (inherently retarded), instead of telling her who the fucking man is, and how shits gonna run with your daughter.

I was drinking with a friend not long ago, while he complained about his divorce. I was getting fed up, because frankly, I dont give a shit about his problems, i've generally got my own to deal with. Anyway, he was like 'If she wasnt such a bitch, I might still be married'... So, I said 'Ya, you and ten million other men, fuckhead, now stop crying, its making me fucking uncomfortable'. He didnt like that, but fuck him. We all knew she was a bitch before they were married, so there was no reason for him not to see it. If love is blind, people shouldnt fall in love. And instead of having more kids, this time with the woman you cheated on your baby mama with, you should have maybe opened your fucking eyes, grow the fuck up, and realize what life as a divorced dad is gonna be like before you make more fucking dumb decisions. I explained this to him in detail, even harsher then i've typed.

Sorry for the rant.. Divorced people are starting to make my fucking stomach turn. And the more of my friends that get married, the more divorced friends I eventually have.

God Apoc ur great!

I was gonna say something similar, but this sums it up pretty well.

If you can't agree on something as stupid as this, then I can understand why you got divorced. lol

[Amber Lamps]

Okay, I thought that we've been over this already... Avery, you're a good man and an outstanding father but until you stop playing these stupid games with these bitches, you will never be happy. I guarantee it. The more important you make these petty issues, the more she will use them to hurt you. You can not "win" this type of fight. The report card comes to her, in her name(probably), to her house. Quite frankly, you're lucky that she even took the time to email it to you.

You have got to learn to pick your battles. Do you not get time with your daughter? Are you not a significant part of her life? Does your daughter know that her daddy loves her? Is your daughter healthy, happy, and being taken care of? THESE are the important things that you need to focus on. Leave the petty bull crap to her. STOP PLAYING HER GAMES!!! I'm sorry but you are sounding just like a bitch, probably exactly the way she sounds. The time you are WASTING arguing about the minute, insignificant, scraps of your daughter's life, is time that would have been better spent talking to your daughter, playing with her, etc. Sit down and decide RIGHT NOW if this is the way you want your life to be for the next 13 or so years. Fighting with this cunt over what color socks your daughter wears, if you pick her up at 4 vs 4:15 or what cereal she eats in the morning.

Trust me Avery, until you get a handle on this situation and find some way to smooth this relationship out. You will never be able to move on with your own life... I honestly applaud your commitment to your child but you need to be happy as well. Come on man, seriously take a step back and honestly and objectively evaluate this present "dilemma". Is it REALLY all that important who signs a kid in kindergarten's report card? Really? BTW I was wondering if it isn't possible to have the school send out a copy of her report card to each of you?

[Apoc]

Originally Posted by Amber Lamps

Okay, I thought that we've been over this already... Avery, you're a good man and an outstanding father but until you stop playing these stupid games with these bitches, you will never be happy. I guarantee it. The more important you make these petty issues, the more she will use them to hurt you. You can not "win" this type of fight. The report card comes to her, in her name(probably), to her house. Quite frankly, you're lucky that she even took the time to email it to you.

You have got to learn to pick your battles. Do you not get time with your daughter? Are you not a significant part of her life? Does your daughter know that her daddy loves her? Is your daughter healthy, happy, and being taken care of? THESE are the important things that you need to focus on. Leave the petty bull crap to her. STOP PLAYING HER GAMES!!! I'm sorry but you are sounding just like a bitch, probably exactly the way she sounds. The time you are WASTING arguing about the minute, insignificant, scraps of your daughter's life, is time that would have been better spent talking to your daughter, playing with her, etc. Sit down and decide RIGHT NOW if this is the way you want your life to be for the next 13 or so years. Fighting with this cunt over what color socks your daughter wears, if you pick her up at 4 vs 4:15 or what cereal she eats in the morning.

Trust me Avery, until you get a handle on this situation and find some way to smooth this relationship out. You will never be able to move on with your own life... I honestly applaud your commitment to your child but you need to be happy as well. Come on man, seriously take a step back and honestly and objectively evaluate this present "dilemma". Is it REALLY all that important who signs a kid in kindergarten's report card? Really? BTW I was wondering if it isn't possible to have the school send out a copy of her report card to each of you?

I have a solid plan for not getting into this situation. I've got no biological clock/need to have children, im not a pussy bitch, and I dont mind wearing a rubber.

Fucking gold. 8 bucks and an attitude change coulda got im a dozen condoms, to be used on any combination of women, without ever having to deal with the STD known as bastard children.

Kids are great. When your ready for them, and in a stable relationship (theres the tough one).

They are however, extremely great when they are someone elses, and just turned 18.

[Dave]

Originally Posted by Apoc

I have a solid plan for not getting into this situation. I've got no biological clock/need to have children, im not a pussy bitch, and I dont mind wearing a rubber.

Fucking gold. 8 bucks and an attitude change coulda got im a dozen condoms, to be used on any combination of women, without ever having to deal with the STD known as bastard children.

Kids are great. When your ready for them, and in a stable relationship (theres the tough one).

They are however, extremely great when they are someone elses, and just turned 18.

Best line ever on american dad last night, haily asked stan why her middle name was "dreamstealer"

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by Apoc

I have a solid plan for not getting into this situation. I've got no biological clock/need to have children, im not a pussy bitch, and I dont mind wearing a rubber.

Fucking gold. 8 bucks and an attitude change coulda got im a dozen condoms, to be used on any combination of women, without ever having to deal with the STD known as bastard children.

Kids are great. When your ready for them, and in a stable relationship (theres the tough one).

They are however, extremely great when they are someone elses, and just turned 18.

Or 21.... This is exactly why I'm fixed. I watch people go through this bs every day. It has got to suck. No one will ever be completely happy. Not the mother, not the father and definitely not the child. You're all in some crazy limbo relationship... no one truly wins.

[caveman]

As long as you see it thats all that matters. It was that same in my house mom signed after they both looked it over and talked to me about it. Same as in my house now with my little ones. I don't really care one way or the other who signs it, I know I am gonna be there to keep my thumb (Fatherly Influence - if you know what I mean) on the back of their head to keep the schoolwork a priority.

Originally Posted by eBBs15

ehh I don't understand why it's a big deal for either of you to sign it... just as long as you both SEE it. The whole point is that you know how your kid is progressing in school... not who's mark is going to be left on your kid's transcripts...

again, I'm no parent... but I'd say fuck it... give the bitch what she wants... again... as long as you SEE it. Pick your battles...

COMPLETE TRUTH

Originally Posted by Apoc

I think your both retarded. Her because she's female. You because your trying to reason with a woman (inherently retarded), instead of telling her who the fucking man is, and how shits gonna run with your daughter.

I was drinking with a friend not long ago, while he complained about his divorce. I was getting fed up, because frankly, I dont give a shit about his problems, i've generally got my own to deal with. Anyway, he was like 'If she wasnt such a bitch, I might still be married'... So, I said 'Ya, you and ten million other men, fuckhead, now stop crying, its making me fucking uncomfortable'. He didnt like that, but fuck him. We all knew she was a bitch before they were married, so there was no reason for him not to see it. If love is blind, people shouldnt fall in love. And instead of having more kids, this time with the woman you cheated on your baby mama with, you should have maybe opened your fucking eyes, grow the fuck up, and realize what life as a divorced dad is gonna be like before you make more fucking dumb decisions. I explained this to him in detail, even harsher then i've typed.

Sorry for the rant.. Divorced people are starting to make my fucking stomach turn. And the more of my friends that get married, the more divorced friends I eventually have.

Brutal but TRUTH

Originally Posted by Gas Man

I echo what everybody said. Let it go, and just tell her you just want to show that you are "in the game" with your daughter. That you don't want to be on the side line or even appear that you're on the side line.

And I agree. Talk to your daughter. With your copy. Tell her how proud you are of her, but let her see the report card.

Maybe even print it out and frame it. With some "Great Job" signs in front of it in the frame. Put it on the wall. Tell her, that everytime she gets a good report card, you'll replace it on the wall. Something she can look at. Maybe put it by the front door. You'll see it on your way out the door, going to work and whatever. Remind you why you do what you do. How much she's worth all the hassle with her mom and having to work. Good for her, good for you. Make it a big deal with her.

Gas, What the hell are you talking about? If you make every report card such a big deal then it just numbs the brain IMHO. I just make sure that the grades are up to the standards that the child is capable of attaining and either push for improvement or encourage the good performance with a nice little treat. Always make sure that the child understands that they're going to school is equivalent to your going to work everyday. My son's Kindergarten teacher has explained to her class to say, "school is my job."

Just let this one slide, bud. Women are evil. Just let this one slide, take the high road, be the better man, what ever you want to call it. It just isn't worth fighting over it will only get you stressed and fuming for a non-issue.

[Captain Morgan]

Originally Posted by Apoc

I think your both retarded. Her because she's female. You because your trying to reason with a woman (inherently retarded

So, what you're saying is that arguing with any woman is like arguing on the internet?

Originally Posted by Amber Lamps

Okay, I thought that we've been over this already... Avery, you're a good man and an outstanding father but until you stop playing these stupid games with these bitches, you will never be happy. I guarantee it. The more important you make these petty issues, the more she will use them to hurt you. You can not "win" this type of fight. The report card comes to her, in her name(probably), to her house. Quite frankly, you're lucky that she even took the time to email it to you.

You have got to learn to pick your battles. Do you not get time with your daughter? Are you not a significant part of her life? Does your daughter know that her daddy loves her? Is your daughter healthy, happy, and being taken care of? THESE are the important things that you need to focus on. Leave the petty bull crap to her. STOP PLAYING HER GAMES!!! I'm sorry but you are sounding just like a bitch, probably exactly the way she sounds. The time you are WASTING arguing about the minute, insignificant, scraps of your daughter's life, is time that would have been better spent talking to your daughter, playing with her, etc. Sit down and decide RIGHT NOW if this is the way you want your life to be for the next 13 or so years. Fighting with this cunt over what color socks your daughter wears, if you pick her up at 4 vs 4:15 or what cereal she eats in the morning.

Trust me Avery, until you get a handle on this situation and find some way to smooth this relationship out. You will never be able to move on with your own life... I honestly applaud your commitment to your child but you need to be happy as well. Come on man, seriously take a step back and honestly and objectively evaluate this present "dilemma". Is it REALLY all that important who signs a kid in kindergarten's report card? Really? BTW I was wondering if it isn't possible to have the school send out a copy of her report card to each of you?

Sometimes, this is the type of shit I need to hear. I fought long and hard to even be able to have my daughter overnight just one night during the school week. I use to have 3 overnights every week, then this bitch said I should only have 1 as soon as school started (which was only on a weekend). The judge gave me 2 (one during the week, one on a weekend), but in the summer, it goes back up to 3. I try my damndest to show my daughter how much I care. I felt like it was important to sign the report card, but after reading this (as well as other replies) I can see why it doesn't matter much in the grand scheme of things. Thanks.

I still have to go back to court to try and get joint legal custody, but I think that's about the only other battle I'm going to fight for awhile. I'm happy to finally be getting more time with my little girl than her mom wanted to allow, even if it's still a little less than what I previously had.

Over the past few months, I've come to realize exactly how much of a stupid bitch my ex is. It's ridiculous, but she could possibly be certifiably nuts. So I'll do my damndest to let this type of shit go from this point forward.

[Gas Man]

I echo what everybody said. Let it go, and just tell her you just want to show that you are "in the game" with your daughter. That you don't want to be on the side line or even appear that you're on the side line.

And I agree. Talk to your daughter. With your copy. Tell her how proud you are of her, but let her see the report card.

Maybe even print it out and frame it. With some "Great Job" signs in front of it in the frame. Put it on the wall. Tell her, that everytime she gets a good report card, you'll replace it on the wall. Something she can look at. Maybe put it by the front door. You'll see it on your way out the door, going to work and whatever. Remind you why you do what you do. How much she's worth all the hassle with her mom and having to work. Good for her, good for you. Make it a big deal with her.

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by Captain Morgan

So, what you're saying is that arguing with any woman is like arguing on the internet?



Sometimes, this is the type of shit I need to hear. I fought long and hard to even be able to have my daughter overnight just one night during the school week. I use to have 3 overnights every week, then this bitch said I should only have 1 as soon as school started (which was only on a weekend). The judge gave me 2 (one during the week, one on a weekend), but in the summer, it goes back up to 3. I try my damndest to show my daughter how much I care. I felt like it was important to sign the report card, but after reading this (as well as other replies) I can see why it doesn't matter much in the grand scheme of things. Thanks.

I still have to go back to court to try and get joint legal custody, but I think that's about the only other battle I'm going to fight for awhile. I'm happy to finally be getting more time with my little girl than her mom wanted to allow, even if it's still a little less than what I previously had.

Over the past few months, I've come to realize exactly how much of a stupid bitch my ex is. It's ridiculous, but she could possibly be certifiably nuts. So I'll do my damndest to let this type of shit go from this point forward.

Please do it, bro... If you never believe anything I ever post again, believe this. All this bickering and fighting can only hurt your daughter. Every time that bitch tries to start something with you, picture your daughter's beautiful smiling face and shake it off. She wants to make you miserable and that little girl is her only weapon. Don't allow her to be used this way. Besides, refusing to engage with her and being happy with your own life is the greatest weapon you have. Seeing you happy, prosperous and at peace is the last thing she wants to happen. If you want to truly win and more importantly, if you want your daughter to win, you will avoid these petty conflicts, focus on making Avery happy the other 4 or 5 days of the week, and build a life for yourself that you can share with your daughter. Wish for more but not at the expense of what you already have.