Funerals

[wildchild]

Originally Posted by udman

I think this situation is different. You guys discussed it beforehand while Zoomies hypothetical did not. If the friend made it clear they wanted bikes at their funeral then there better be bikes at the funeral, otherwise no. New rule for every group ride; ask everyone how they want to be buried before the ride begins. That oughta get the noobs a little more contemplative about that blind curve coming up.

very true. I guess I just assumed if friend was in your riding group it would have been talked about. I am like many others here, better be bikes, beer(after bikes are parked), and lots of fun. cremate and spread me around on the fun roads.

[Trip]

Originally Posted by Cutty72

So if a parent hated that their child had joined the military, and then was killed while serving, should that soldier/sailer/airman not get a military funeral and insist that none of his/her friends and brothers/sisters in arms wear Class A's to the funeral?

In respect to the parents I would say yes, a funeral is not the place to be douchebag and try to force your opinion on the grieving family even if it is something like this. If the soldier was smart he would of stuck it in his will and then his parents wouldn't get an option. He is getting a military funeral.

I love motorcycles and if I was killed on one, I would completely understand if my wife and mother forbid them at the funeral. I'm dead, what I think doesn't matter anymore, but I would want my family comforted and not have my idiot friends be douchebags to them when they are in a really bad spot.

[Gas Man]

Originally Posted by Cutty72

I wouldn't because riding the motorcycle is not conducive to wearing a suit and tie.

However, I would not let the mothers outlook affect how I got to the funeral. Granted, my relationship with the mother, and with the deceased, would play a major deciding factor as well.

Fuck wearing a suit and tie. I'm at the point in my life where I'll ride my MC to about anything I F'in choose. I ride to church, BBQs, work, on the job site. I'm a biker, deal with it!

Originally Posted by shmike

No.

Why would you ride? As a tribute? Is there a group ride in his honor? Do it after the funeral.

I wouldn't ride to a funeral under normal circumstances.

See as I said... I would.

Originally Posted by wildchild

yes i would.

I had a friend die who i used to play guitar with and hang out in bars with a lot. we always joked around that if one of us dies we want to be buried in boots and jeans and the other would come to the funeral wearing the same.
he died a couple months later at a very young age. I showed up at his funeral as asked by him. I was the only one there that way. funny after the service one of his other buddies asked me to play one of my bud's guitars before they closed the casket.
you go to a funeral to pay your last respects to the one who died.

THIS!

If you rode with the guy/gal and that is what you two shared then ride.

[Flexin]

Originally Posted by Trip

It's a dick move to the mom. No need to upset her when she lost her child.

If you lost your daughter to something like this, would you like it if one of her friends showed up supporting the very thing that took your child's life? It's got to be hard enough to lose a child without people wanting to be douchebags to you at the funeral. Almost Fred Phelpish.

I want to be a fire fighter. My family will not be happy if something happens to me I think my family would be happy to see firefighters to come dressed to show support.

James

[Trip]

Originally Posted by Flexin

I want to be a fire fighter. My family will not be happy if something happens to me I think my family would be happy to see firefighters to come dressed to show support.

James

If your family agrees with it, this discussion is null and doesn't matter. I was specifically talking the discussion about if your family goes off the deep end and hates everything about what you did.

[Flexin]

Originally Posted by Trip

In respect to the parents I would say yes, a funeral is not the place to be douchebag and try to force your opinion on the grieving family even if it is something like this. If the soldier was smart he would of stuck it in his will and then his parents wouldn't get an option. He is getting a military funeral.

I love motorcycles and if I was killed on one, I would completely understand if my wife and mother forbid them at the funeral. I'm dead, what I think doesn't matter anymore, but I would want my family comforted and not have my idiot friends be douchebags to them when they are in a really bad spot.

Just showing up on a motorcycle isn't a douchebag move. If they act up then yes but just showing up isn't. Everyone deals with it differently. Some laugh, some cry.

[Trip]

Originally Posted by Flexin

Just showing up on a motorcycle isn't a douchebag move. If they act up then yes but just showing up isn't. Everyone deals with it differently. Some laugh, some cry.

It is if the family has gone crazy like the OP said and you knew they would be upset if you showed up on one.

[Flexin]

Originally Posted by Trip

If your family agrees with it, this discussion is null and doesn't matter. I was specifically talking the discussion about if your family goes off the deep end and hates everything about what you did.

My mother didn't want me riding but I think she would be happy that people can for me no matter what they drive\ride. If I think of it I will ask mom how she would feel.

James

[fasternyou929]

Originally Posted by Flexin

Just showing up on a motorcycle isn't a douchebag move. If they act up then yes but just showing up isn't. Everyone deals with it differently. Some laugh, some cry.

Originally Posted by Flexin

Just showing up on a motorcycle isn't a douchebag move. If they act up then yes but just showing up isn't. Everyone deals with it differently. Some laugh, some cry.

You must've missed the first post, the context of which is important when reading the replies in this thread.

Originally Posted by azoomm

Hypothetical....

Someone dies in a motorcycle wreck.
He has no wife or children.
His mother has always been anti-motorcycle.
She is hysterical at the news of his death and blame everything motorcycle... his riding group, his friends, his motorcycle "I knew that thing would kill him one day"

Given the reaction, would you ride to the funeral?

[Flexin]

Originally Posted by fasternyou929

You must've missed the first post, the context of which is important when reading the replies in this thread.

I read it all before posting.

James